One of the most common questions couples ask is: "How much should I write?"
The short answer: 1 to 2 minutes when spoken aloud.
The Ideal Word Count
Aim for 150 to 250 words.
- Under 100 words: Can feel rushed or incomplete, like you didn't put in enough effort.
- Over 400 words: You risk losing your guests' attention (and your partner might start locking their knees!).
Why Shorter is Often Better
1. Nerves
On your wedding day, your heart will be racing. Reading a 5-minute essay while holding back tears is difficult. A concise 2-minute vow is manageable and punchy.
2. Balance
If your partner writes 3 sentences and you write 3 pages, the ceremony will feel unbalanced. Agree on a rough length beforehand (e.g., "Let's stick to 200 words").
3. Impact
The most powerful vows are direct. saying "I promise to be your shelter" is often stronger than a paragraph explaining the concept of shelter.
Timing Tips
- Read Slowly: You will speak faster when you are nervous. Practice reading at half-speed.
- Pause for Reaction: If you include a joke, leave 3 seconds for laughter. If you say something heavy, let it sink in.
- Print it Out: Don't rely on scrolling through a long note on your phone. Print your vows on a card so you can see the whole text at once.
Need inspiration to fill that minute? Check out our Romantic Wedding Vows for ideas.